With just days to go until we reach the due date for our second baby, I am reminded of all of the joy and chaos that came along with those first few months of life when we had Paisley. Although there are certainly some beautiful memories and firsts to recall - I am also reminded of the less glamourous and scarier moments we went through in the early days. On top of the uncertainly that undoubtably comes along with a first baby I felt a lot of pressure - pressure to be the best mom (whatever the heck that looks like), pressure to truck around town visiting all of our family and friends so they could meet the new baby, and pressure to get back up and on my feet as soon as possible. These pressures I think played a big role in contributing to the Post Partum Depression I experienced in the beginning and worked extremely hard to over come and recover from. It certainly put a fog over what should be one of the best times for a mother and her newborn so as we embarked on our journey this time around I’ve spent a lot time reflecting on how I might want to do it differently.
I’m honestly not a big fan of parenting advice articles or tips on how to best raise a child but I do enjoy reading a good story. Digging into how others experience challenge and parenting, I find, has helped me find my own happy medium and way of being. I came across a Pinterest article one day - a first person account of a staycation one mom allowed for herself after the birth of her young daughter. Reading through the story I felt more and more connected to this woman - her emphasis on self care and focus on taking the pressure off really resonated and I’m doing my best to create a similar oasis for my own family this time around.
The basic concept of the post-baby staycation is to forgo some of the traditional pressures and expectations put on new moms even in the early weeks after delivery. Not only is your body physically healing - the mind is also undergoing its own transformation - getting to know a brand new human being all while figuring out how your family works now with this new precious life joining the mix. Essentially you unplug, stay cozy and wait to share your little one with a world of eager friends and family until you and baby have both had enough time to recover and adjust. For me this is going to mean no hospital visits, getting off social media, only taking calls necassary for those post- baby appointments and leaving the welcome baby party planning to a few key people - inviting everyone over to our place for a celebration when anyone can come enjoy baby if they wish to do so all at the same time. No trips across town with a newborn, no need to respond to countless check in messages, and time to enjoy our new baby to ourselves even if it’s just for a few weeks. I’ve stocked up in advance to take care of some household needs to cut down on trips to the grocery store and with a freezer full of prepared meals- change stations fully stocked with diapers and wipes and a fully supportive group of friends and family in my corner I’m really looking forward to resting , feeding baby and our family and enjoying the early moments with our new babe.
The staycation is 100% a personal choice for us and I recognize that it’s not for all moms and families. I’ve met plenty of new moms happy to connect and get moving again soon after baby and that’s absolutely okay too. I just knew I wanted to try something different this time around - take the pressure off and rest, relax and enjoy. We will be sharing a brief birth announcement for those interested - but that will be pretty much it for the next few weeks on social - looking forward to sharing how the staycation pans out <3